Our Story
Shelley and I attended Fairfax High school, and we both graduated in 1979. We were not close friends, but we shared mutual friends at Fairfax (a few of whom will attend our wedding).
Fast forward 43 years... We received separate invitations to a wedding of a close friend's son (Dustin Kane). We attended the wedding at Duke's in Malibu with our own plus-ones and spent some time getting reacquainted.
A few days after the wedding I decided to give her a call.
Our first phone chat lasted nearly 5 hours. Our second phone chat started off with Shelley asking me: "What do you want from me?"
Asking my intentions? Seriously? What? Does she think I'm trying to sell her a timeshare?
After many long phone chats, we decided a proper date was in order. So, I flew down to L.A. (I was living in the Bay area at the time), and we had a splendid time. Actually, she nearly killed me on a strenuous hike, but we certainly hit it off.
After a Summer of wonderful long distance dates, I decided to move back to L.A., where I grew up - and continue our courtship.
L.A. welcomed me back with open arms as I reconnected with friends and family members. After a year of dating, and eventually living together, I figured I better put a ring on this girl before she changed her mind.
And here we all are - celebrating our commitment to each other today at Duke's - where it all began.
Big shout-out to Dustin who made all of this possible!
Thanks to all of you for celebrating with us!
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Getting There
Duke's Malibu
At the Water’s Edge in Malibu
21150 Pacific Coast Highway
Malibu, CA 90265
(310) 317-0777
Frequently Asked Questions
When should I RSVP by?
Please RSVP by August 15, 2025. You can RSVP by clicking on the RSVP button in the section above. Or, if you prefer to call, text or e-mail, please do so at
Nelson – (510) 610-3424 / nelsoncarnicelli@gmail.com
Shelley – (310) 869-0340 / shelleyanne@sbcglobal.net
What is the address of the venue for the ceremony & reception?
Duke’s Malibu is located at 21150 Pacific Coast Highway, Malibu, CA 90265. The ceremony and reception are at the same location. There will be signage directing you to the ceremony once you arrive, or you can ask a parking attendant.
What is the dress code for the wedding?
The dress code is “dressy casual” (and, yes, that’s a real thing). It basically means special event clothing that’s relaxed and comfortable -- fancier than what you might wear to work, but less fancy than semi-formal. Men might wear anything from dress slacks & a blazer to Chinos and a button-down shirt. Women might wear a dress or slacks and a blouse. Mostly, we request you refrain from wearing jeans, shorts, casual tops, athleisure wear, tennis shoes or flip flops. But no matter what you wear, we’ll be excited to see you!
Is the wedding indoors or outdoors?
What will the weather be like on Sept. 13th?
The ceremony and reception will be held entirely indoors, but there is a balcony that you can go out onto for some fresh air.
Although Los Angeles will likely be hot on September 13th, Malibu is typically much cooler, especially in the morning. For 8 of the past 10 years, the high for September 13th ranged from 64-73F (while the 2 other years saw 76 & 79). So, expect the temperature to be in the high 60s, both inside and out.
Have you reserved any hotel rooms for your guests?
No, we have not reserved a block of hotel rooms given the small number of guests who might need a room. If you are looking for lodging, and would like some suggestions, please call Shelley or Nelson, and we’ll help you find the right place in the right area.
Will you provide any transportation?
No, we will not be providing transportation as most guest are coming from around the Los Angeles area. If you need a ride to the event, call Shelley or Nelson, and we’ll be happy to arrange a ride share for you or even find someone driving in from your area.
Will there be parking available?
Yes. Valet service is prepaid. Simply give your car to the valet at Duke’s, and then look for directional signage to the event (or ask the valet).
What type of food will you be serving?
We are offering 3 menu items
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Roasted Duke’s Fish: lemon basil glaze, jasmine rice, macaroni salad, bok choi macadamia nut slaw.
2. Pork Rib and Chicken Plate: Imu roasted True Story Farms heirloom kurobuta pork, mango bbq sauce, grilled huli chicken, jasmine rice, macaroni salad, bok choy macadamia nut slaw
3. Wild Mushroom and Spinach Ravioli: Vegan ravioli, coconut ginger broth, locally sourced vegetables
What if I have dietary restrictions?
If you have any allergies or restrictions other than vegetarian, please let us know and we’ll work with Duke’s to accommodate your needs.
Will there be an open bar?
We will be serving wine and an assortment of non-alcoholic beverages gratis. We will not be having an open bar for beer or cocktails. However, they will be available for purchase.
Are plus-ones allowed?
All guests were invited either as a family, couple or a single plus a guest. We request that you not bring any additional people besides those included in the invitation.
Where are you registered for wedding gifts?
Please refer to our registry section below.
What is the wedding day itinerary?
The wedding ceremony will be starting at 11:30am followed by Hors D’Oeuvers and drinks, a plated luncheon and dancing.
When should I arrive?
Venue doors will open at 11am. We advise arriving between 11 and 11:15 so you can say hello to other guests and get comfortably seated before 11:30.
When will the reception end?
The reception will end at 3pm. We’d love you to stay later, but unfortunately there’s an evening wedding on Sept. 13th.
Can I take photos or video at your wedding?
We will be making photos of the wedding and reception available online a few weeks after the event. If you’d like to take your own photos or video, we ask that you only do so at the reception, not the ceremony.
Can I post photos or video on social media?
Yes, you can post on social media, but please avoid posting pictures or video showcasing other guests you don’t know. We would like to respect all our guests’ privacy.
Registry
To All Our Cherished Family & Friends
Your love and support all these years, culminating in your presence at our wedding, is all the gift we ever need from you.
We are fortunate to not need any household and personal items, so we haven’t set up a gift registry, and we ask that you not bring any gifts.
If you still feel you want to give something, you can contribute to our honeymoon either with good suggestions or a donation. We’re going to Europe in 2026, probably London & Paris. If you know of a place we should stay, a day trip we should take, a restaurant that can’t be missed, or sites that have to be seen, let us know. Send a text or an e-mail, or even send a card or note via snail mail. We’d love to hear your ideas.
And if you want to donate to our honeymoon fund, bring a card to the wedding or even Zelle directly to Nelson or Shelley.
We’re just so happy to be sharing our day with you!